Women: 5 Tips For Improving Your Sex Drive


Many women will experience a loss of libido at some point in their life. Lack of sex drive is often associated with menopausal symptoms, but women at any age and from all walks of life can suddenly go off sex. While there isn’t a set in stone solution, there are lots of different things you can try when sex has gone off the menu for you.

5. Sleep More

Poor sleep can pretty much affect every aspect of your life, so if you’re not getting enough sex, it could be because you’re not getting enough sleep. If you have difficulty dropping off try a warm bath or gentle exercise before bed If your bedroom is full of stuff then clear it out so you’ve got a space that will relax rather than irritate you. Avoid alcohol and if you smoke, be aware that tobacco is a stimulant so having a cigarette before bed can keep you up.

4. De-stress

When your mind is occupied with other things, it’s difficult to add sex into the equation. Stress is part of life but it doesn’t need to be debilitating. If you know why you’re stressed (money, weight, job, kids etc) then think carefully about steps you could take to lessen your load. If you feel stressed but aren’t sure why then seek medical advice. Mediation, exercise and laughter are all great stress busters and promote better health too.

3. Hormone Therapy

Whether you’re menopausal or not, your low libido could be due to a hormone deficiency. DHEA deficiency has been proven to lead to lack of libido and replacement therapy can often help. Stress and tiredness can drive your hormone levels down so discuss your symptoms with your doctor but make sure he or she informs you about side effects before you decide to start treatment.

2. Herbs

Holistic treatments have a bit of a bad rep in the UK but herbs like Ginseng have been used for thousands of years and are thought to improve stamina and endurance and increase libido. However, if you have a high heart rate, high blood pressure or other heart problems then consult your doctor before taking Ginseng.

1. L-theanine

L-theanine is a green tea extract that is thought to focus and calm the mind. Many people who find their mind starts to race the minute their head hits the pillow have found L-theanine to be an effective way to eliminate the problem.

Bonus Tip

Many women believe that when they don’t want to have sex with their partner it’s due to lack of libido, but it could be because you’re not particularly enamoured with what you’re getting out of lovemaking. If sex with your partner is not that pleasurable then it’s completely understandable why you wouldn’t want to do it. Whether or not your sex life has gone off the boil, leaving the subject open for discussion and finding out more about what you and your partner do and don’t like will lead to a better experience for everyone involved, so if the sex you’re having just isn’t cutting the mustard, don’t be afraid to talk about it.

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