Dating and Finding Love for HIV Positive Singles
Author: Nicholas Longridge
HIV positive singles face very difficult challenges when it comes to dating. They have to either date someone with HIV or disclose their HIV status. Disclosing to someone that’s HIV- is a terrifying task and finding someone else with HIV; well…the local bar isn’t having HIV singles night. There are many solutions.
1. HIV Dating Websites
There is a vast number of HIV Dating sites. Just Googling “HIV dating”, will yield many results.These are great places to for HIV positive singles that are looking for friends, lovers and companionship.
Tips on Using HIV Dating Sites
Search as Broadly as Possible
For example, search the entire country instead of narrowing it to a state or city. The number of people with HIV in the USA is about 1 million. Consider the population of the country is 300 million. Not all of that 1 million is single and a good number of them are homeless or in a lower income class; so less likely to have a computer. The broader the search, the more results. If two people fall in love, is there anything more meaningful in life? Don’t let distance stop that.
Don’t Search Profiles with Pictures Only
The biggest mistake people make on HIV dating sites is selecting to only view profiles with pictures. HIV is a private matter and many are not comfortable posting their picture. Get to know someone and then ask to see a picture. If there is no physical attraction, at least there is a new friendship, and with this disease, it never hurts to develop more friendships.
If Affordable, Use Paying Sites
Any free dating site, HIV or not, is a breeding ground for scams. These scammers are not going to pay to scam people. It’s very frustrating chatting with someone for 15 minutes and getting excited about them, only to be led to a porn site. Free sites are loaded with these scams. The pay sites offer a scam free environment, a better quality site, less ads, and an overall more enjoyable experience.
All of these sites let people join and browse profiles for free; so members can test out the site.It’s only when a member wishes to email others that they charge.None of them have a contract and payments can be stopped at any time.One site, HIV and Single, only charges $4.99/month but offers a free premium membership to anyone on disability.
Here is a quote from a paying member on one of the most popular HIV dating sites:
“I have been a member on free HIV dating web-sites and one thing I observed was I was not protected. As soon as I signed in I’d get 5-6 emails from attractive females and after doing a little research, I could see it was scammers trying to get me to pay them. I find that your website has grasped the problem. Thank for the service.”
Is meeting real people worth $5 – $10 a month? How much is spent going out to bars to meet people? And if someone is paying, aren’t they serious about meeting someone?
Fill Out Your Profile Completely When a profile has 1 sentence it’s boring and it seems like the person doesn’t care. Nobody wants to talk to someone that’s boring and apathetic. A good profile will emphasize what’s great about the person, their dreams, what they’re looking for, what they like, etc. If a profile is not filled out, it is not going to get any attention.
2. HIV Cruises
There are amazing gay and straight HIV Cruises.Here is the agenda on these cruises; float around in the most beautiful places in the world, have cocktails brought to your lounge chair, eat, dance, play games, sleep in and meet other HIV positive people. It is an unforgettable experience. They are affordable, ranging anywhere from $650 – $2000 depending on the room you choose, and the price includes all the food and alcohol you can consume. Google “Paul’s Poz Cruises” or look him up on Facebook.
3. HIV Retreats The list of HIV retreats is large.Many of these retreats are free. They offer not only offer a place to meet other positive singles, but also a place to renew spirit and soul. Many offer yoga, meditation, support groups, classes and other spiritual activities. Some are campouts; others are in meditation centers or monasteries. They usually have a HIV specialist conducting classes HIV related topics. Check out plwha.org, a non-profit website that is all about traveling with HIV. They have a complete list of HIV retreats all over the world.
4. HIV Conferences HIV Conferences can also be a great place to meet others living with HIV. Many are put on by the medical community and a lot can be learned about HIV. There are hundreds of HIV conferences each year.Google “HIV conferences” and there will be a lot of results.
There is still a lot of stigma around HIV and these services remove that stigma. Positive singles can be comfortable being themselves in these places. Many of these services cost little to no money and they are available all over the world to every race, creed and sexual orientation. In addition to being great places for positive singles to meet, there are many other benefits to using these resources. They help people living with HIV use their HIV as a touchstone for spiritual growth, happiness and joy. People can come together with a common struggle and share their experience, strength and hope with each other. Deep friendships will be made that are beyond most people’s understanding. They can turn what was thought to be the worst thing that ever happened to them, in to the most beautiful thing.
About the Author
HIV and Single is a HIV dating site who’s mission is to help positive singles find love and companionship without the fear of disclosure. Founded in 2004, it is one of the most popular HIV dating sites, according to Google rankings. It features frequently updated HIV news, forums, instant messenger, a matching system, and many other features. It is free to join, create a profile, browse other profiles and flirt with other members. You can visit them at www.hivandsingle.com.